Why Do We, as Women, Feel so Comfortable in Copenhagen?

Like everything in life—our experiences, emotions, events, people, and actions—this question

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holds a deeper meaning when viewed from the soul’s perspective. From this vantage point, an inner picture emerges, allowing us to look more closely. Through expanded perception, we recognize which inner processes are unfolding, being felt, or simply wanting to be acknowledged.

When we approach something on a soul level, we sense change within us. Unconscious parts of ourselves are stirred. And when we become aware of our own soul—or psyche—the world appears more abundant and full. We perceive this depth in certain people, in music, in films, and most profoundly in nature. It’s a richness that springs from our core.

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In my blog posts, I consistently explore how feelings and situations can be approached from this soulful level: analyzing them, reflecting on them, and perhaps offering others new perspectives and insights.

This time, I experienced a special sensation while sitting in a lovely café in Copenhagen. I was enjoying the Three Days of Design event and visiting my sister in Denmark. While sipping my coffee, I asked myself: Why are so many women drawn to Copenhagen? Is there a deeper reason?

As with so many things in life, sometimes we feel almost magically drawn to something. That’s the soul at work—something that sparks our interest, triggers emotion, lights a passion. Often, a longing lies behind it—sometimes conscious, sometimes not.

To understand such longings, it’s worthwhile to examine the word longing itself and take a closer look at how our soul is structured and how it functions. Fundamentally, our soul has a self-regulating mechanism designed to guide us toward our true selves.

When we live too much from the outside—under societal pressure, trauma, or conditioning—we lose connection with our innermost self. We then try to shape the outside world, hoping it will bring us inner peace or satisfaction. In doing so, we often forget our soul—and even our body. Decisions are no longer made by our true self, but by fear, conformity, or the desire to please others. Our soul falls out of balance.

This becomes especially clear when we consider the inner aspects of our soul. Regardless of gender, we each carry both masculine and feminine elements within, and they, too, need to be balanced.

The masculine elements are about discipline, willpower, assertiveness, resilience—a forceful, goal-oriented energy, a productive drive.The feminine elements are about creativity, trust, intuition, emotional depth, empathy—essential for any creative or artistic endeavor.

Taking a look at our society today, we see that there are very few spaces where these feminine qualities are truly valued and allowed to flourish. That’s a key issue.

This is also the difference between a rational view of emancipation and a soulful one. Viewing emancipation on a soul level isn’t about forcing women into a male-defined system—it’s about bringing the feminine aspects of the soul into a patriarchal world—for everyone, regardless of gender.

Holistically, that also means acknowledging that society’s traditional view of masculinity leaves little room for vulnerability or emotional awareness. That’s another form of imbalance.

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This brings me back to Copenhagen: I perceive it as a place where that balance between masculine and feminine soul elements is genuinely lived. Devotion, creativity, trust—they all find space there. It feels like a place where you’re allowed simply to be.

Design, art, attention to detail, true craftsmanship, and a deep appreciation for coziness—these qualities greet you at every step. Yes, people care about appearance—but not out of vanity or ego, rather as an authentic expression of the inner self. Copenhagen feels like a city of being, not just functioning.

So, returning to the topic of soul balance: It’s always worth advocating for internal equilibrium. That means living your own truth—your self-expression, your dreams, your authenticity. It means giving room to trust, devotion, and creativity, while also pursuing your goals with discipline.

That is what grounds us—within ourselves—and what softens and humanizes society. When we offer ourselves warmth and pursue our dreams with true dedication, the world meets us with abundance and richness.

Ultimately, we can integrate the principle lived so beautifully in Copenhagen anywhere in the world—if we remain true to ourselves and consciously work on that balance.

Hilda

Seelleria